The Blog of Alisa Benay

January 10, 2012 3:50 pm

2012: The Journey Continues

After wrapping up my insights on 2011, I thought I would also put forth my ideas for the journey into 2012. I won’t call the list below a list of resolutions. I’m just not that brave. A list of resolutions leaves room for failure and I actively choose not to feel failure-ish for ideas that don’t quite pan out when life bites me in the butt.

(an as a side note… Dear Life: The next time you decide to bite me in the butt, please bite hard enough to actually remove some of the mushy side area that doesn’t fit well into any brand of jeans known to man and take it with you. Seriously, step it up here. Thank you.)

This is more a list of what is on my mind at the present for things I would like to do during the year. I have learned that living right here, right now is the best possible use of my time and energy. I am open to the idea that come May 3rd, right here, right now might look a little different than it does now. Which, in turn, might make item number (insert random number here) a completely idiotic thing to measure myself by on December 31st.

Here goes. During 2012….

1) I would like to spend more time with my friends. Actual face to face interaction, not just the occasional drive-by Facebook comment. If you hang out with me, I will try not to pass out in public from inebriation like that time last summer at the pool. Or, at least, I promise to be good entertainment if all else fails.

2) I would like to pursue art for the sake of creation. I have spent too much time over the past couple of years attempting to always make money from the things I create. I want to get back to the process of art, not the end result. Mixed Media is calling my name right now, we’ll have to see if that’s just me hearing the funny voices again.

3) I would like to spend more time outdoors this year. Just grab-the-kids-and-go days where we hike and picnic. I can’t believe how many hiking spots here in our local area we haven’t explored yet. And, I am of course, here, talking about after the snow stops in May. Mama’s not the hike in the cold while wearing shorts type. Let’s all be real, here.

4) I would like to finish several projects for the lace knitting book that I’m working on. It’s challenging and requiring me to step outside of my comfort bubble.

5) I would like to develop a routine that includes taking care of myself a little better. That includes both eating better and exercise. I won’t throw any hard and fast numbers into the mix here because the reality is that I’m still going to make Toll House Cookies (ask me for my high altitude recipe!) on a pretty regular basis. I just want to say at the end of the year that I am more healthy than I was at the beginning. Can you call “I want to be slightly less squishy” a valid goal?

6) I would like to stay on top of my finances, both personal & business, on a somewhat monthly basis so that I don’t have to do the 2 week thing that happens every January where I have to sort through mountains of paperwork.

7) I would like to streamline my online presence with my business and then learn how to manage things like an SEO campaign by myself. A somewhat geeky one, I know, but I am already taking steps to make this one a reality.

8 ) I would like to finish the stupid rock project on the side of the house that I started 2 bleepity-bleep years ago. You’ll understand that one better when I show you pictures this summer.

9) I would like to have my basement completely cleaned out. I know, I know, this is a measurable one, which I said I wouldn’t do because of the whole “what if I fall down a fight of steps on May 3rd while attempting to live by #5 and break both my arms, requiring extensive surgery and dual thumb to armpit casts, and right here, right now is more I would like to wipe my own butt and less I would like to develop a routine of personal development, etc.“ But I need the clutter gone from my life. So there it is.

10) I would like to sew something for myself. Which, shockingly, is not something I’ve done for several years. I’ve got some divinely soft modal fabric in my stash that’s dying to be a comfy cute little top. The kind that can, you know, be worn both as jammies and also as a slap-a-bra-under-it-and-wear-it-to-work-and-nobody-knows-you-just-slept-in-it kind of top.

11) I would like to shave my legs more than, say, 10 times. No comments from the peanut gallery.

12) I would like to post more regularly on my blog than I have over the past year. For the past couple of years, I have posted commercial entries showcasing my wedding gown business. And in doing so, have lost my voice. My writing is somewhat snarky, witty, and very personal. When I’m writing at my best, it’s a style that makes you feel as though you’re sitting down with me over a good glass of wine (all the while knowing that my alcohol consumption prior to inebriation threshold is fairly low and you might get to see something pretty funny before the day is over). I want the blog to go back to being a showcase of my journey, not an advertisement for my product. It was like that many years ago and brought many great friends into my life.

There you have it. 12 ideas for the journey though 2012. What are your ideas?

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January 7, 2012 8:33 pm

Some thoughts on 2011

I’ve spent the past week giving some thought to what 2011 meant to me. It was a year of change for our family and I thought I would share with you some insights into the highlights. Feel free to read it in the erratic pseudo poetry style I wrote it in:

In 2011….

As the year emerged, I began to breath again after the sucker punch to the gut of my husband loosing his job with a non-profit that he poured his heart and soul into for over 18 years, and the life threatening depression that followed for him.

I learned that a new normal is just that; new, different, frightening…and yet, normal. Breakfast is still in the morning. Laundry still needs washed. A good night’s sleep or a Hershey bar can still restore the soul.

I started playing angry birds. Silly birds, why are you so mad at the pigs?

I celebrated the last birthday before official middle age.

And learned that I like myself now more than I did at 18 or 21 or 30 or any of the other milestone birthdays.

I had an unusual amount of friends that had babies. Unusual due to the said birthday mentioned above.

I came to terms with the fact that my business isn’t going to be what I thought it would be.

And opened myself up to the creative flow that has been stifled by trying to make my product too commercial.

After intermittent months of being an ostrich with my head in the sand, feeling like a failure, and not addressing issues that needing tending to.

I have accepted, and…to be honest…embraced, that my art may only ever be for my own edification. And that is fine. That revelation brings me back to a place where I can create instead of make. And with all creation, comes the divine spark that is the soul.

I learned that with a little of the right hair gel and diffuser, my natural hair is quite curly. No really. It’s as big as any 80’s spiral wrapped piggy back perm I ever rocked. Pics to come.

I worked a regular 40 hour a week/outside the home/paying job for an entire year for the first time in my life.

And, by the way, I now have a “2nd” job. Reference said 40 hr/week job above. More on that later.

I posted the single best Facebook post ever: If birthday cake had a fan club, I would be the slightly stalker-ish ex-girlfriend with a restraining order sending in perfume scented stationary with things like “If you’ll just give me another chance, I’m sure we can work it out. I can make you love me. I can be better, I promise.”

And? On an randomly unrelated note…I had a practice run at Weight Watchers. Practice is good, right?

I became the mom of a teenager. And 2 black belts. Not necessarily in that order.

In my darkest hour, I discovered a marriage that was stripped bare, removed off all else, it was just you & just me. And discovered that now is better. And then doesn’t matter. Then brought us now, and now is all there is.

I found new friends to laugh with, both face to face & online.

And lost one of my dearest friends.

And miss her at the most random times. Which then make me laugh, and she would laugh and cry with me if she could.

I figured out that my obsession with Harry Connick, Jr. would be better if he would stop appearing on talk shows. Really, he’s a bit of a dork.

I hiked mountains with my family. And felt at peace, whole, complete. At home in god’s country. Wherever this life takes me, the mountains will always be more home to me than anywhere else.

I finished 2 Harry Potter books. And am feeling the tug and both wanting and not wanting to finish the series. The inner geek in me wants to know what happens next. But I have the bittersweet knowledge that this might be our last book series to read with a (not so) little one on my lap.

I set out my last batch of cookies for Santa.

I started working on a book of lace knitting patterns. Some days I feel like I’m in over my head with this, math not being my strongest skill, but it’s a fun challenge that I am determined to conquer.

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Screen shot of my online store: Boutique Benay

The fam on top of Vail Mountain (at the Wedding Chapel, if you’ve been there)

Lace ruffle for the bottom of the wedding dress that will be in the lace knitting book

Gwynne

Rest peacefully Gwynne. You are loved.

Vivienne Sample

Stunning and dramatic, Vivienne is a silk dupioni trumpet gown with a sweetheart neck line of rouched dupioni, French Alencon lace on the bodice and delicate straps, a dramatic scoop back, and back seam buttons flowing to the full chapel length train. The bodice is adorned with an exquisite Swarovski crystal brooch made for us by Haute Bride. Each of our gowns come with 3 pre-made bustle loops for the reception as well as internal boning and bra cups. Sample sizes, conditions, and colors are shown below.

And yes, that is Lara Casey of Southern Weddings Magazine wearing the Vivienne sample! She stopped by our booth at NCY Bridal Market & couldn’t help trying it on.

Additional photos are included here to show the difference between the Ivory and Champagne samples. Please note the both come with the brooch attached, the lace on the champagne sample is slightly different than the ivory sample. Both of French Alencon lace.

Original retail price $1500 (See our Couture Gowns tab to purchase this gown as a new made to order gown)

Available sample sizes and colors:

$900 Champagne Size 8 (36.5″-28″-38.5″) Never worn, brand new condition. This gown was made for one of our stores and then returned to exchange for another color. Brand new condition.

$900 Ivory Size 10 (38″-29.5″-40″) Never worn, but tried on a couple of times in our studio. This gown is overstock from our store sample inventory. Brand new condition.

Sample gowns were made either for models to wear during a photo shoot (size 4), or for brides to try on during trunk shows (size 10). They are generally worn for about 20 minutes on a carpeted area and are in LIKE NEW CONDITION with no stains or flaws unless otherwise noted. Sample gowns are sold on a first come, first serve basis with no holds available. Payments plans can be made in certain circumstances.

PLEASE NOTE: Due to the drastically reduced prices on our sample inventory, all sample gown sales are final with no returns. We can work with ahead of time to send exact measurements or to send further snapshots of the exact gown in our studio before you purchase to make sure you are completely satisfied with your order before it ships.

October 26, 2011 1:48 pm

Wedding Wednesday Steal of the Week: Penelope Sample

Continuing our new regular feature of Wedding Wednesday Steal of the Week, this weeks special is 10% off all remaining Penelope sample wedding gowns. There are 4 gowns left, one each of sizes 2, 4, 10, & 14.

Samples gowns are priced at an amazing $250! Enter STEAL at checkout for 10% off now through November 1st.

Penelope Sample

Strapless, Silk taffeta, A-Line gown with bubble train. Sweetheart neck with gold and crystal vintage inspired trim and applique (gold trim can be changed out to silver trim, inquire for details). The sample gowns available are all in ivory. For information about purchasing a new gown in another size or color, please see the Gowns / Couture Collection tab.

Jewelry and Veils shown on the models are available from our Accessories tab from the home page.

Original retail price: $900

Available sample sizes: All Penelope samples are in Ivory with Gold Trim. Silver trim is available, inquire for details

$250 Ivory Size 2 (33.5″-25″-35.5″)

$250 Ivory Size 4 (34.5″-26″-36.5″)

$225 Ivory Size 10 (38″-29.5″-40″)

* The size 10 sample has a small smudge on the underside of the hem. It is not noticeable as the gown is being worn, but we have adjusted the price accordingly.

$250 Ivory Size 14 (41″-33″-43″)

Sample gowns were made either for models to wear during a photo shoot (size 4), or for brides to try on during trunk shows (size 10 or 14). They are generally worn for about 20 minutes on a carpeted area and are in LIKE NEW CONDITION with no stains or flaws unless otherwise noted. Sample gowns are sold on a first come, first serve basis with no holds available. Payments plans can be made in certain circumstances.

October 26, 2011 1:36 pm

Alisa Benay vintage inspired jewelry

This week, I have been editing all of my jewelry images for updates to the website and online store. Oh, my, I have so many favorites! It’s so fun to go back through all of them. Here’s a few to share just for you:

October 18, 2011 9:58 pm

Steal of the Week: 10% off Claire samples, only $540!

We have a large selection of sample gowns that I would love, love, love to have placed in happy homes with Real Brides. This week, I’m starting a new feature called “Steal of the Week”. A fabulous sample will be featured every week with a 10% discount coupon code that can be used to purchase the gown at the Alisa Benay online store

Claire: Original Made to Order Price $1250

Sample Price: $600

10% Discount code: STEAL use at checkout now through October 26, 2011

Sample available: Sizes 4 & 10, both in light Ivory

This weeks feature is Claire. I love Claire so much! If you are looking for the perfect traditional gown with just a hint of drama, Claire is the girl for you. As a made-to-order Couture gown, Claire is $1250. Two samples are available, both in like new condition, for $600 here. As the Steal of the Week gown, you can use the discount code STEAL at checkout for an additional 10% off now through October 26, 2011. Please send any questions you have about the Claire sample to me at alisa {at} alisabenay {dot} com.

Claire Sample

Stunning in her simplistic elegance, Claire is a silk satin trumpet gown with princess seams, a sweetheart neckline, double spaghetti straps, and back seams buttons to the hem. This gown has inner boning, bra cups, a crinoline skirt inside the gown, and finishes with an invisible zipper in the center back. The sample comes with the flower shown in the photo at the bust, which can be replaced with a brooch or other element, inquire for details. All Alisa Benay gowns come with pre-made bustle buttons for the reception included.

All sample gown purchases are final sale with no returns or exchanges available.

October 4, 2011 11:57 am

Stylish Perfection blog feature

Find us today on the Stylish Perfection blog. Wow, such a pretty feature, thanks so much to Jessica of Jessica’s Country Flowers for putting that together. I’m looking forward to working with Jessica on some upcoming projects together. It’s always fun to meet new vendors from across the country.

Stylish Perfection

November 9, 2010 2:53 pm

International Bridal Week

Wow, has it been nearly four weeks since market? Time has flown since we’ve been back! I’ll be posting soon about our new stores and new places you can find Alisa Benay gowns. I’ve also got super exciting news for our Colorado brides, stay tuned, you won’t want to miss our announcement at the end of the week. I leave you with a cute little photo of some of our new headpieces an new gown Sophia (which was a hit & 1/2 at market!)